Today, after going through how people will see another person with many different view, I felt that because the way we see people results to a lot of misunderstanding among people. There are 16 of them but I am going to list out a few which happens most common.
[Thinking Distortion]
~Fatalising: Always think of the worst situation where there are some alternative. This is a very negative way of thinking which I think why there are so many suicide cases. There is always a road for you to move on.
~Causal Reasoning: Make conclusion without evidence support. Simply means that you judge things not looking at the real whole situation. I think we always did that because we believe the words from other people, judging by seeing only the small part of the whole story. Jumping to conclusion.
~Over generalizing: Believe that something in one case is true will always be true. "You are always late" but your friend is only late this once.
~Personalizing: Puts the blame all towards yourselves no matter what happen. Eg. "The group did not do well, It's all my fault." Which it is not always the case and causes stress level increase, felt useless.
~Externalizing: Put the blame all on other people while it's actually your fault. Eg. "I came late to class because traffic jam etc." While the fact is that you woke up late. I think that it has become very common among teenagers and people like me. We always give all sort of reasons to ourselves where we are sometimes the one at fault.
~Discount positive: This is interesting. This means that you will make a discount to the achievements you had made. Eg. "You have study very hard for examination and scored a 'A' but you said it's just luck."
~The "I should have...": This the term regret, always looking back. "I should have study harder." It is the same as to cry over spill milk. Myself also did that, we always thing of the past that we should have do this, should have do that. The present is what we must care and the past is what we cannot change so just move on as normal and strive harder before regret.
~Tunnel Vision: This is the one that impact me the most because it is so true. It means that we only see things through the imaginary tunnel by us. Only focus on the negative part.
[There is no one to help me]
Instead of the big picture.
[The world is full of people who can help you]
From now onwards, I think we should all see the big picture instead of the small parts of it.
"I did not change, it is the way you judge me changes."
This is my sharing today, those who have the symptoms above, we should all reflect about it:] To be a better person, sometimes letting it go is better than to hand on to it. Of course, the word revenge, misunderstanding will not form if we can all be so forgiving but I think it is somehow a way to release yourselves.
Start to think good today!!:]
